The Art of Making (and Not Making) Plans

Coaching of 22 October 2016 delivered by: Suzana Gurvitz
Document Submitted to the site by: Suzana Gurvitz
Adapted for coaching from: By VERENA von PFETTEN  OCT. 15, 2016

Adult life is full of commitments: bills to pay, family to see and a job you probably have to show up for. But in a world where many of us complain of being overscheduled, there’s something uniquely depressing about having no control over the time once quaintly called “personal” and “free.”

A recent study by the Olin Business School at Washington University in St. Louis found that scheduling leisure time with friends — for movies, drinks, bike rides — can make these otherwise enjoyable activities feel like chores, which is often why we cancel them.

The New York Times covered the culture of plan-canceling as early as 1986. The topic has more recently been given new life thanks to the advent of efficient if impersonal modes of communication like text message and email.

But if technology has made bailing on commitments too easy, how about a radically different approach? Make fewer to begin with. Read more

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Why do I have such difficulty disciplining myself?

Coaching of 24 September 2016 delivered by: Robert Martin
Adapted from: Instant Analysis, by David Liebermann

Whether it is losing weight, starting an exercise program, becoming organized, writing the great American novel, or anything else, it is always the same old story. I know what needs to be done, and I do it for a while, but I do not put in the effort and attention to keep going. It get less and less motivated and soon lose interest. I tell myself that I never really wanted it or it is really not worth it, and then I give up. “Maybe I’ll try again another time” is the phrase that I sell myself, as I have so many times before.

You look around at other people, admiring them for their tenacity and fortitude. “How on earth do they get themselves out of bed every morning to go jogging?” is the question that you continually ponder. You wonder if perhaps you just lack discipline, as if it were an inborn trait. But discipline is not something you’re born with; it’s an ability that is cultivated. It takes much more than a passing want or desire to bring on the power of discipline. Discipline is a matter of training the mind. When the alarm goes off in the morning and you pull the covers over your head, you train your mind to be lax. When you need to finish an assignment but decide to watch a little TV to unwind, you train your mind to be lax. In the evening when you decide to have a second helping of dessert even though you know it might upset your stomach, you train your mind to be lax. Then, when it comes time for you to follow a regimen, what happens? you offer up a host of explanations as to why it would be best if you just skipped today.

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Ironing

Coaching of 10 September 2016 delivered by: Paulo Silva
Adapted from: Ironing, by Andy Rooney

This morning I ironed a shirt. If you don’t think that’s worth mentioning, it’s either because you’ve never ironed one yourself or because you’re a lot better at it than I am.

There are jobs to be done in life that I’ll never master, and ironing is one of them. I enjoy the idea of pressing something to make it look better but as soon as I start, I remember all over again how impossible ironing is for me.

They’ve never made a shirt that doesn’t need ironing, no matter what it’s made of. All “permanent press” clothing needs pressing “Permanent Press” is as inaccurate as “one size fits all” or “no-stick frying pans”. One size doesn’t fit anybody, and when I cook in a no-stick Teflon pan and spray it with no-stick pass, things still stick.

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A time to remember…

This weekend was a special one. We had the pleasure to receive the visit of an old member: Marden. He goes back all to the way to the 1960s and he was delighted to have met Haydée and Joe Rodrigues.

Meeting the Old Friends: Haydeé, Marden and Joe Rodrigues

Meeting the Old Friends: Haydeé, Marden and Joe Rodrigues

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3 Things That Happened When I Took Freezing Cold Showers For A Week

Coaching of 3 September 2016 delivered by: Suzana Gurvitz
Document Submitted to the site by: Suzana Gurvitz
Adapted for coaching from: Freezing Cold Showers by Nick Greene, MSN Lifestyle, August 30th 2016

 

My best thinking happens in the shower. Whenever I have to do something mentally taxing, I always take a long, ponderous shower before I get started. I would have done so before sitting down to write this article, but I couldn’t—because this is a story about taking cold showers, something I have been doing for the past week.

Taking a cold shower is commonly thought of as a torturous act, something endured by people in military boot camps or prison. In “The Jimmy,” an episode from the sixth season of Seinfeld, George Costanza says cold showers are “for psychotics” when someone suggests he take one. Heck, the term “cold shower” itself is synonymous with “libido-killing.” Despite all this, there’s a small but enthusiastic movement of people extolling the benefits of cold showers, and they have some real science to back them up.

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Everybody’s Birthday Party – July 30th 2016

On July 30th, 2016, the SPDCians gathered together for another meeting, but this time, it is a different. It is different because it is the day we celebrate together our birthdays. And it was also special because we had also many friends celebrating their true birthdays on the same occasion.

You can vie the programme here: EBP 2016 – Programme

Our cake this year was a “bit” different from our usual themes:

EBP 2016 - Birthday Cake

EBP 2016 – Birthday Cake

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Big Brother Boni – Dear friend José Bonifácio da Cruz

This is a sad month for all the SPDCians, as we lose our beloved friend José Bonifácio da Cruz. He will be a person to be remembered forever for all that he represented to the SPDC.

Big Brother Boni

Be as you have been helping us to self-actualize for more than half of your life,
I‘ve  never seen such considerate person… Do you think we are your sons or your wife?
Glad I’m here, dear friend, having this great opportunity to congratulate you today.
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